Dating a single mother with a teenage daughter
Going on a date, flirting with someone, kissing someone, testing your chemistry—these aren’t links in a chain of events that leads to an irreversible “We have to have sex now” contract that you’re obligated to uphold against your own wishes, inclinations, and desires.
* * * Dear Prudence, I’m recently getting back into dating after 11 years of marriage.
I have sympathy for your stepson, who is still a child in need of counseling and support.
Your husband must find a therapeutic intervention that provides him with the help he needs to communicate nonviolently.
If your stepson is seeing a regular talk therapist, and it’s not helping, your husband should consider finding someone who specializes in anger management, behavioral intervention, and preventing violence.
(My favorite is finding the DUI of a guy even though he’d never told me his name.
* * * Dear Prudence, I am a stay-at-home mom with a 2-year-old toddler. We have a restraining order against her after she threatened me while I was pregnant.
Right now, my stepson lives with us full time and only has supervised visits with his mother.
* * * Dear Prudence, I have more than once had sex, or gone further than I was really comfortable going with men, for the sake of preserving their feelings, or because I felt I had already taken things too far to back out.
Almost all of my female friends have a similar story.
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There are dozens of ways to politely stop a sexual encounter: “Thanks for a nice evening, but I’m not feeling a connection, so I’m going to go home”; “I’m not comfortable with this anymore; let’s stop”; “I’m not coming in, good night.” The bigger problem, which you’ve already identified, is overriding the voice in your brain that says Oh my God, I couldn’t possibly say that, even if it were true.